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Those children chose to live like heros in their own way, despite the extreme material poverty they live in.

Watching TV is usually something I do not find myself doing (I am still to tune the antenna after a couple of years here), but as I was waiting at the dental clinic the other day, I was browsing through my iPhone’s TV channels, and came upon this guy on one of those talk shows. His name is Bill and there he was telling his story about how he ended up being wrongly diagnosed as being HIV positive, and lived that way for over six years!

He went into great detail about the anguish, fear and pain he had been subjected to. For over six years he has lived in fear of dying from AIDS. Now the skeptic in me wants to know why he is on TV telling his story.

Is he doing it to help others, or is there another reason – such as the more publicity he gets, the larger the settlement offer he is likely to receive from the doctor’s malpractice insurance company? I’ll let you decide.

Now to be fair, let’s face facts. The fact is, the doctor’s did make a mistake and misdiagnosed him. The doctor’s mistakenly told him he had a medical condition, which at the time seemed like a death sentence. The doctors really messed up.

On the other hand, from my point of view, Bill has another serious life-threatening condition that needs immediate attention. And this condition is much worse than HIV.

 He has a serious case of “victimitis.”

He is living his life as a victim instead of someone who was given the greatest gift a human can ever receive – the opportunity to live a consciousness life.

By conscious I mean knowing that we must live each day as though it were our last day on earth. Now the fact that he may die 30, 50, or 80 years later than he thought, is just a bonus.

But the fact is, he was given the priceless opportunity to spend every day, living in the moment with conscious thought about the people he loves, what he can do to contribute to others while he is still on this planet, and the true meaning of his life. Everything he did on a daily basis could have been filtered through a much more discerning filter than most of us have – which is to stop focusing on the future and live and create our reality in the moment.

And there is no greater gift you can receive. But to receive it, you have to let go of the belief that you are a victim of your past. Obviously something Bill is not doing. Instead, he would rather tell his “story” and remain a victim.

Recently I was having a discussion with a friend of mine. During the conversation she told me about how she was the victim of terrible, horrific abuse when she was a child. In fact, this was not the first time she had mentioned this.

The advice I gave her was to never mention it to me ever again, or to anyone else for that matter unless she was ready to heal the situation and let it go.

But in the meantime, talking to anyone about her experiences just impresses it deeper into her subconscious mind. Since the subconscious can only focus in the present moment it thinks the abuse is happening again and again, each time she tells her “story”.

All this does is help her to hang on to her victim status. The problem is that living as a victim is an easy thing to do… I mean why would so many people, all over the world cling so desperately to situations which victimize them?

 Well, here’s a list that I came up with that I’d like to share with you today.

People willingly keep viewing themselves as victims:

1) They can tell themselves that any failure they face in the present is not their fault because of what happened in their past.

2) They can believe that people, circumstances and conditions outside of their lives are responsible for all bad things in their life.

3) They can get unending sympathy and attention from others when they tell their “story.”

4) They can use their ‘victim status’ to prevent them from getting emotionally close to others and facing rejection.

5) They can use their past experiences as justification for why they should no longer attempt to create what will make them happy in their life right now.

6) They can confirm their past programming that taught them that they are a “terrible person”, or would “never amount to anything,” or whatever other negative self belief they allowed to be instilled in themselves.

7) They can feel like a hero because they are the one of downtrodden people, fighting the forces of evil, against all the odds (as if…) 

They can feel spiritual, believing they are sacrificing their life on this planet so they will receive their true reward in the afterlife (how sad is that…)

9) They can just be basically unconscious, like most victims, and have no idea what kind of a destructive and bitter cycle they are on.

No matter which of these reasons – or more likely, combinations of reasons they have – the end result is still the same: They will continue to lead an empty, miserable life, existing day-to-day, with no real shot at happiness and fulfillment. And that is their true sickness.

To be healthy, happy and prosperous, you have to be willing to release your heroic journey against all odds, and just expect and accept you can create whatever you desire from this moment on.

Bill (the guy with the misdiagnosis) was given the greatest gift – the opportunity to live a consciousness life. He had an opportunity to break out from the unconscious herd and live a life really worth living, but instead he has decided to live his life as a victim.

Now if I seem hard on him, I plead “guilty as charged.” Somebody has to be. Because someone has to figuratively slap him – and you, and me – upside the head and make us understand that every moment is a new opportunity to recreate our lives.

If you have been holding on to your ‘victim status’ and believe you are stuck or cannot turn your life around, I have a solution for you.

If you are ready to stop living as victim and start living your life as a Creator, you are in for a treat of realization.

 All you have to do is to learn how to create your life by design instead of by default. If this is your time to step forward and claim your victory, then keep taking action and stop living as a victim, and be a Living Success instead!

Please take two minutes of your time, and confirm your Hero Status in the Comment box below.

To your continued Heroism!

GratitudeLog?

Today, I received a invitation to join a new site called GratitudeLog. I checked it out and was pleasantly surprised to see what I think is a great idea and a great platform for people to raise their feelings and share their appreciation for all things.

A good friend of mine and I had a similar idea 2 years ago nearly, but never materialized anything. I’m glad a site like this has come around. If it interests you, check them out and see what you think. It’s like twitter, but for giving gratitude.

http://www.gratitudelog.com

When it comes to personal development this is a pretty important issue, for without asking questions of ourselves we will never gain insight. Think of the amount of time you have attributed  blame to someone in your lifetime; contrast that against the amount of time you have blamed yourself for something. It is much easier to accept our misfortune as the consequence of others or events outside our control. For a moment, I ask you to think about how honest you really are with yourself.

For decades many psychologists have considered individuals who have heard their inner voices as bordering on the edge of sanity. But, if you look carefully at the many great spiritual leaders, scientists, artists, musicians and social leaders, they regularly listened to their inner voices. They gratefully awakened this special inner conversation  regularly. This may sound a bit fancy, but believe me when I say that not only is it real, it’s happening right now.

It would probably surprise you to know the amount of success that comes to people who can answer questions about themselves with honesty and accuracy, key to achieving this is the ability to phrase a question. A good question should contain precise key words that make an answer easier to obtain. A question is either a call for an answer or for further information on a subject. Internal questioning should be a mixture between these two forms of questions.
 
For instance, begin with some fundamental, simple questions that begin with who, what, why and how. Then move on to some more probing questions to advance things along a bit. These questions should check your understanding of what you are asking and how much . While there isn’t a rigid formula to asking internal questions, you should make sure you ask a variety of open and closed questions.
 
An open question requires an expansive answer that is not yes or no. An example of this is: What does it mean to be successful ? Your answer here requires an open and abstract approach. You should now  use a probing question to explore the themes you uncovered in your previous answer such as : Which of these meanings are the most important and why ?
 
From answering this question you will discover the value of the things you attribute to success. 
 
Now is the time to clarify your answers with a qualifying statement : What I really want from life is… ?
This restates your objective as well as providing some fresh insight. Your final question should be a close question : What am I going to do tomorrow.  Your closed question should provide an answer that gives direction rather than options.
 
The key to asking a proper question is timing. A well chosen reflective question can get right to the heart of an issue. A reflective question puts your gaze to the very core of your being and to the heart of an issue. A reflective question should be tightly focused and relevant to context.  
 
However, questioning is just one half of the equation. The way to give a good answer is to be a good listener. Listening is an essential part of communication, and it is different from hearing. Being a good and patient listener helps you not only solve many problems at work or home, but also to see the world through the eyes of others, thereby opening your understanding and enhancing your capacity for empathy. Besides which, you learn a lot from listening. As deceptively simple as listening to and acknowledging other people may seem, doing it well, particularly when disagreements arise, takes sincere effort and lots of practice. Everybody loves to be listened to. You have probably met someone who is a good listener and thought afterwards what an interesting person they were – even though they may have said very little. The truth is that they were giving you the chance to be interesting, so you appeared naturally warm to them.
 
You can turn this charm on yourself because it works in the same way. It feels amazing to ask yourself empowering questions and really get insight from your answers, just make sure its constructive not critical.

Enjoy a great summer month ahead

Blessings,

In the middle of a session the other day I had a powerful realization. I was asked to think of a relationship I had with something in the last week, that in my mind was the ideal relationship, and to think of what it was about that relationship that made it ideal.

A number of people from the blog group thought of their cars, tool sheds, families, workmates, old friends, even relationships with objects such as their mobile phone, speedboat, hand bag, or favorite pair of shoes. To each of these people, these things felt comfortable, and simple. The relationships they had with these people or objects was ‘rewarding’ and easy to maintain.

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When my turn came to identify my ideal relationship, I thought of our cat Shalom who has very simple needs, and it is the ultimate ego-boost for me when I am home and I am greeted in such an enthusiastic fashion just for walking down the stairs, or displaying his affection by popping on my lap as I seat at my desk. I don’t know of any others that greet me so enthusiastically day after day. No matter how cold the night was (cat free house at night) or no matter how busy my day has been, when I didn’t get much time to play with him.

I call this unconditional love. Even without having to leave the house, Shalom always comes to us to get and give love from us, unconditionnaly.

So what is unconditional love?

Unconditional love is the type of love that comes without conditions. It is the type of love that you have for your partner when the romantic, hollywood-style love is gone. Once the romantic love is gone you make the transition to “real” love. Real love is love you have for your partner despite the knowledge that they are not perfect. You know your partner has faults. You know your partner is not perfect. You know your partner makes mistakes sometimes, but that’s okay. You still love them. This is unconditional love.

The same thing applies to you however in looking at your partner’s faults. You acknowledge that you are the same. You have faults. You are not perfect. You know you make mistakes sometimes, but that’s okay. That’s called self-acceptance, and you expect unconditional love to overcome the faults and imperfections that people have.

So what do you get from this then? Should we all go out and get cats to teach us something about unconditional love? Maybe there is a lesson to be learnt here. We all clutter our lives with trials and tribulations, and there is the temptation to let our issues rule our lives.

But if you are serious about saving your marriage you need to put the clutter to one side and let your unconditional love come through. It is okay to have faults and make mistakes. And love will conquer them all.

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Success doesn’t come to you… you go to it. – Marva Collins

Setting an intention is something we all have done in the past and naturally have the ability to do. However, many of us have not learned how to harness the awesome power behind setting an
intention yet.

If you look at the typical behavior of your mind, you’ll see it is constantly creating intentions. Some are weak while others are more solid and trustworthy. It’s easy to understand why your wimpy intentions don’t always manifest results, yet why wouldn’t all of your strong intentions? What is the secret to making your solid intentions manifest results faster and easier?

The answer lies in the length of time you can actually hold on to the FEELING of your desired outcome. Here is a great manifesting secret to explore:

• The number of seconds you can hold on to a specific desired outcome with a feeling of genuine excitement and joy is indirectly proportional to the amount of time it takes to manifest in your world.

This means that imagining your desired outcome has happened for 60 seconds will manifest that outcome twice as fast for you as if you held it for 30 seconds. So how long can you hold on to ONE thought? Your ability to hold an intention for a longer period of time depends on how much you can quiet your mind.

This quietness is based on several things, but mainly it is created from your personal connection with the Universal Source.

The secret to increasing this connection is rooted in your ability to trust the Universe, let go of attachment to specific outcomes, and relax while enjoying the magical manifesting process!

If you do nothing else this year…evolve! – Lily Tomlin

As you learn how to consistently trust in the Universe and yourself, you will also have more of a KNOWING and FEELING that your desired outcome is already on its way. The Universe will give you signs along the path to guide you through apparent problems, personal issues and distractions that may stop you.

It is good to know that these “distractions” are a natural part of the manifesting process. Without them, you wouldn’t get the inspiration, motivation, or spark of creativity to come up with any revolutionary new ideas about how to evolve as a spiritual being in this world.

These problems and distractions help you to WAKE UP and make your life more alive and juicy! They create a greater awareness inside of you, and actually raise your consciousness. When the moment comes that you feel free from this distracting problem, you experience a great alignment with the Universe again, and can FEEL
how intimately and divinely connected you are with everything.

If we don’t change, we don’t grow. If we don’t grow, we are not really living. Growth demands a temporary surrender of security. – Gail Sheehy

Most people just wish their lives would change. They send out wishy-washy energy with their words, thoughts and feelings, and thus get weak results in return. Often people will unconsciously choose to have weak intentions because it’s a great excuse for not succeeding, and is easier than continuing to work harder to reach
their goal.

On the other hand, sometimes the habit of working too hard can be a hindrance, especially if we forget to make time to practice receiving the FEELINGS we are really desiring. So set some time aside tomorrow morning to relax into those feelings you most desire. Whether it is pure joy, abundance, or being loved, admired or
appreciated, make time to imagine whatever will give you those feelings inside.

Manifesting happens easily and effortlessly when you open yourself to your feelings, are clear about what you want, and can trust in your personal connection with the Universe. When you live your life from this space everyday, you don’t get upset if your desires don’t manifest at the expected time. Instead, you find yourself committed to being more passionate about FEELING what you really want to xperience inside.

With practice, you will see the Universe magically responds to every intention you put out. In fact, once you start on this manifesting path, it only becomes easier and more fun to create anything you desire.

There are basically two movements of consciousness: love
and fear. Love is allowing what is, and fear is resisting it. – Nirmala

May the blessings continue each and every day.

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Wishing you the best you deserve,

Everything that happens to us happens for a reason, it has its purpose. And sometimes, one thing leads to another. Instead of locking yourself up in your cage of fears and crying over past heartaches, embarrassment and failures, treat them as your teachers and they will become your tools in both self improvement and success.

I remember watching Patch Adams – one of my favorite movie, actually. It is one great film that will help you improve yourself. Hunter “Patch” Adams is a medical student who failed to make it through the board exams. After months of suffering in melancholy, depression and suicidal attempts – he decided to seek for medical attention and voluntarily admitted himself in a psychiatric ward.  His months of stay in the hospital led him to meeting different kinds of people. Sick people in that matter. He met a catatonic, a mentally retarded, a schizophrenic and so on. Patch found ways of treating his own ailment and finally realized he has to get back on track. He woke up one morning realizing that after all the failure and pains he has gone through, he still wanted to become a doctor. He carries with himself a positive attitude that brought him self improvement and success. He didn’t only improved himself, but also the life of the people around him and the quality of life.

Did he succeed? Needless to say, he became the best damn doctor his country has ever known.

So, when does self improvement become synonymous with success? Where do we start? Take these tips, friends…

*Stop thinking and feeling as if you’re a failure, because you’re not. How can others accept you if YOU can’t accept YOU?

*When you see hunks and models on TV, think more on self improvement, not self pitying. Self acceptance is not just about having nice slender legs, or great abs. Concentrate on inner beauty (and this beauty will not only last over the years, but increase as you get older!).

*When people feel so down and low about themselves, help them move up. Don’t go down with them. They’ll pull you down further and both of you will end up feeling inferior.

*The world is a large room for lessons, not mistakes. Don’t feel stupid and doomed forever just because you failed on a science quiz. There’s always a next time. Make rooms for self improvement.

*Take things one at a time. You don’t expect black sheep’s to be goody-two-shoes in just a snap of a finger. Self improvement is a one day at a time process.

*Self improvement results to inner stability, personality development and dig this …. SUCCESS. It comes from self confidence, self appreciation and self esteem.

* Set meaningful and achievable goals. Self improvement doesn’t turn you to be the exact replica of Cameron Diaz or Brad Pitt. It hopes and aims to result to an improved and better YOU.

*Little things mean BIG to other people. Sometimes, we don’t realize that the little things that we do like a pat on the back, saying “hi” or “hello”, greeting someone “good day” or telling Mr. Smith something like “hey, I love your tie!” are simple things that mean so much to other people. When we’re being appreciative about beautiful things around us and other people, we also become beautiful to them.

*When you’re willing to accept change and go through the process of self improvement, it doesn’t mean that everyone else is. The world is a place where people of different values and attitude hang out. Sometimes, even if you think you and your best friend always like to do the same thing together at the same time, she would most likely decline an invitation for self improvement.

We should always remember that there’s no such thing as ‘over night success’. Its always a wonderful feeling to hold on to the things that you already have now, realizing that those are just one of the things you once wished for. A very nice quote says that “When the student is ready, the teacher will appear.”  We are all here to learn our lessons. Our parents, school teachers, friends, colleagues, officemates, neighbors… they are our teachers.

When we open our doors for self improvement, we increase our chances to head to the road of success.

I encourage you to give it a try and to keep the Faith!

Nicolas

You have just been struck with the news that your spouse has cheated on you and you are battered emotionally; how do you respond to this discovery? Do you go all out and react the way you feel or should you calm down and seek for a more peaceful way of approaching the issue in order to save your marriage?

Perhaps you are optimistic that your marriage can survive regardless of the unfaithfulness of your partner; but you still feel terribly hurt at the thought of the affair. Here are some tips on how you can get over your emotional wounds, forgive your spouse, bring love back to the relationship and rescue your marriage.

· Do not make any rash decisions following the discovery of your partner’s unfaithfulness. Try and bring yourself to a place of sober reflection and see if you might have created a vacuum that prompted your partner to look elsewhere for happiness. This way, you can dismiss any blame and take the necessary steps towards reconciliation.

· Right now, you may be saying to yourself, “If only they were in my shoes!” It’s normal to feel pain, fear, shock, rage, confusion, and uncertainty. But you can overcome it all if you still love your partner and want the marriage to move forward. You need to realize things like this happen and it’s human to err. Just think of it this way, “What if I was the one who cheated. Wouldn’t I want to be forgiven?” Being thorough in your thinking and considerate about the whole issue will allow you to forgive and let go of the past.

· It’s important to make sure you stay in good health during the ordeal. Health conditions such as insomnia, loss of appetite, loss of concentration, nausea, and emotional trauma should be quickly and properly attended to.

· Also, seek help and counsel from those who have something meaningful to offer. It can be helpful to share your pain with people and get some relief from their meaningful counsel and advice.

· You should also talk things over with your spouse, but not when you’re angry. Otherwise, you may not achieve any result. Tactfully express your pain and also listen to the explanation of your partner. This may help you understand your partner’s decision and help you realize if you’re actions are in any way responsible for them. Talking things over could eventually lead to a meaningful reconciliation.

· Don’t isolate yourself to avoid going into deep depression. Emotional trauma can be eased if you seek help and talk with people you can confide in.

· If you and your partner have children, you need to be careful not to weigh them down with the incident. Handle every issue about the unfaithful act of your partner with care and avoid getting your kids involved, especially when they are too young to comprehend such matters.

If you diligently and patiently follow the reconciliatory tips outlined above, things can get better regarding your marriage. Just put the past behind you and look forward to a brighter future in your marriage.

Wishing you the best you deserve, continue to be strong, live with passion and be in love again!

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Talking about re-loving? That usually means there was once love before things went wrong and it was lost! Well, that’s not the end of the road.

The love can be brought back. It only requires dedication and a firm decision to love and BE in love again.

Casting your mind back to the marriage vows will help weigh your actions and attitude towards your relationship so far. You will be able to see if you’re living up to the oaths sworn that day or if you’ve thrown them into the garbage.

Just ponder over your actions towards your partner of late. Have you really been cherishing, honoring, and loving only your spouse? If you haven’t been living up to these expectations, you have contributed in killing the love in your relationship!

This isn’t meant to cast blame on you. However, it’s just to let you know how and where you have strayed. This way, you can retrace your steps and rekindle the love in your relationship.

Loving again Marriage is always kicked off from the foundation of courtship, the pre-marriage stage where love burns almost endlessly. However, as the courtship progresses to marriage and with the passage of time, the love tends to die down. Things such as insults, betrayal of trust, cheating, and similar sorts, tend to take a grip on the relationship and eventually extinguish the fire of love.

Your spouse no longer arouses those loving feelings anymore. And somehow, it gets to a point where a person wants to find a new partner. It can be quite sad. But before it gets to that point, you can act quickly and bring back that love to re-energize your relationship. There are multiple actions you can take to inject the love of your courting days into your marriage again.

One of the secrets is bringing back positive attitudes, endearment, manner of approach, conversation, and unconditional love into your home again. If your partner was at one point in time the most preferred, cherished, and loving person in your life and you were the same things to him/her; don’t you think there is still a spark of that same love now? It can happen, you can certainly be in love again!

All you need is to think of your partner that same way again. Decide in your heart to make the relationship work and revisit those days when things worked out. They can work again. You’ve got to do away with the bad and bury any current fears that have clouded your mind. If you do this consistently over a substantial period of time, you will discover you are in love again and your partner is also being ignited with the same passion and love for you.

Why wait? Be the one to initiate the action and watch how swiftly your partner will follow suit. Re-loving is indeed the ingredient that can boost your relationship and get it on track again.

Why not download your free ‘101 Ways to Enhance Your Relationship” report, to help you in your quest?

Wishing you the best you deserve.

Continue to Live with Passion and Be in Love Again!

 http://www.submityourarticle.com/articles/Nicolas-Baron-6148/re-loving-84184.php

Four WHOLE weeks.

You’re sitting at your desk, minding your own business when some annoying fellow comes up to you and asks you…

“So, how are you doing for your goals for the year?”

What’s your immediate reaction?

Guilt because you haven’t done ANYTHING yet?

Frustration because you WANTED to set and be on track with your goals BUT YOU DIDN’T KNOW HOW?

Disappointment with yourself because you’ve SET your goals, but haven’t even made it past STEP ONE of your plan?

Resignation because you’ve just plain GIVEN UP on ever accomplishing any goals you set yourself?

Well you’re not alone. The fact is, not even 97% of people who have made it to Harvard Business School (these guys are supposed to be SMART) have any clear and written goals for themselves.

So why is it so HARD to set and ACHIEVE your goals?

Simple.

Because you’ve never learned HOW TO! In your entire education, from your very first day in class to your graduation day… you’ve learned SO MANY seemingly useless things. But there’s one thing you’ve never, ever learned.

And that’s the ONE THING that will make you WILDLY SUCCESSFUL and RICH.

That’s why my fellow Australian friend and Passion Coach Thad Bong created the Goal Setting MASTERY course – to bring you up to speed with the BREAKTHROUGH strategies that he’s condensed into 12 simple but POWERFUL lessons to HELP YOU ACHIEVE EVERY GOAL YOU DESIRE.

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