He understands the laws of prosperity and how it is possible to manifest anything you want into your life at a moments notice. It is important for you to realize that once more and more of humanity awakens to understanding these very simple and basic concepts it will become easier and easier to create the very same results within yourself and within your own life.

I seriously commend Will Smith for talking about these concepts on national television because it is only when celebrities public icons begin to endorse this type of thinking that it will it become mainstream.

And when it does become mainstream you will see humanity as we know it, change its collective consciousness on a global scale, making us not a United States, but a United World, setting a genuine example for the rest of the world.

Peace and Blessings,

Nicolas

Our hearts continually go out to those affected by the devastation in Japan.  We must continually be thankful for a roof over our heads, a place to sleep and food to eat.  In light of this great tragedy we would like to invite all of our Energy Muse supporters to send the Energy of Love to those affected by the earthquake and tsunami.

There is a great healing power of group mind.  We have the ability to use that power now.
On and off, throughout the day, please do the following:

1. Close your eyes
2. Imagine the energy of light originating from your heart
3. Direct this love and healing energy out toward Japan and see it surrounding the whole nation
4. Keep sending the energy of love and healing for at least 60 seconds
Do not focus on the negative and horrific images and videos in the news, but rather focus on the reconstruction and the uplifting stories coming from this tragedy.

We can all make a difference with our intentions, our prayers, and our love for our neighbor, however far they may live.

Continue to live with passion and love!

Nicolas

If you’re a parent, teach them positive habits so that they will know and see the beauty that life has to offer. Make them enthusiastic about life. Instill into their hearts and minds all the wonders and magnificence of being alive by living life to its fullest in a positive way.

There’s a startling difference between children learning through self-discovery, and children learning through self-discovery with proper guidance. The first things that children learn are usually the things that stay with them and mold formative years until they reach adulthood.

Let us suppose you let your children learn through self-discovery. To a certain extent, self-discovery is good since it develops full independence and self-reliance. However, the learning process might be slow. In a sense, it is like a trial and error experience for children. They have to segregate the good from the bad, the right from the wrong, what they like and what they don’t. It is most likely that what they will like are the ones that come easy to them or the ones that they enjoy the most. And the ones that they enjoy the most might not necessarily be the good ones. Without proper guidance, what they like and enjoy the most might actually be hurting them although they are not aware of it. Perhaps later, if they find out that they picked the wrong choices, it may be too late.

With self-discovery through proper guidance, you will be able to leave room for them to develop independence and self-reliance. At the same time, show them what is right and what is wrong. Explain to them why. If possible, cite instances or examples based on true-to-life events to make them more convincing and realistic. The more realistic they are, the more easily the children are convinced. Likewise, try teaching them in a friendly and humorous atmosphere. Children are more attentive and eager to learn when all (both teachers and students) are in an easy mood. You will know and feel their eagerness to learn through the sparkle in their eyes and by the way they answer your questions. You can be sure that what they learn from you is acceptable to them and will stay with them. That is why, as a parent, you must show enthusiasm in life to your children.

There’s a third method of making children learn. That is through proper guidance leaving negligible room for self-discovery. But there are drawbacks. You take away from them the benefits of self-reliance and independence. The guidance you devote to them may be good and well intended, but they must not rely on you on almost everything they do. They become decision-dependent on you. There are instances wherein this type of guidance might be worse than giving no guidance at all.

There are parents who underwent hardships during their childhood, strived, and became successful financially. Although they are financially in the position to guide and assist their children to a better life, they prefer that their children undergo the same difficult experience they underwent during their younger years. Their reason: so that their children will value and experience the same things they went through. This may be applicable to stubborn and rebellious youngsters, but not to disciplined ones. Why must their sons and daughters repeat the same difficulties? There’s no reason to. This is like punishing the innocent. Instead of repeating the experience, they should learn from it. Life is too short to repeat unsavory experiences.

One of the best ways to broaden your children’s knowledge about life is by traveling. The world – its varied people, places, and cultures – has a lot of information to offer. It is perhaps as important as the conventional classroom. If you are financially able, traveling is one of the best educational experiences you can give your children. Look for exhibits or world fairs, and take your children there. Books are the next best things. It’s traveling by reading.

Fill your children with thoughts of self-importance, confidence, and positive attitude so that there will be no room for negative thinking. More importantly, fill their world with laughter, love, and understanding.

You‘ll never go wrong.

While the term depression has been commonly used that people tend not to take it seriously anymore, it is a very serious condition that could impair one’s life.

Depression is very difficult. It can debilitate one’s normal functions, making even the most mundane tasks such as getting up from bed or eating breakfast seemingly difficult. It is sad to think that a lot of depressed individuals are not treated because of the high costs of therapy.

However, coping with depression is still possible without professional help if one knows depression management. Here are a few things that can help people deal with depression, it is important to note however, that professional therapy is still very invaluable with serious depression. These steps are just suggestions for alleviating the condition.

Staying active is one way to take one’s mind off depression. Primarily, activities help distract people from whatever it is that is causing their depression and it also helps channel unspent energies that build up when one is depressed. Keeping active also releases endorphins – natural mood boosters that somehow cheer people up.

It is also important to take a rest. Being depressed can be very exhausting, so it is essential to regain strength and energy if one is to deal with depression. Relaxation techniques can help one be more attuned to the self and be more at peace. When resting, stressors should be kept away from the bedroom so that ample rest can be obtained.

Depressed people should also express their emotions. Depression usually results from suppressed emotions. People who are grieving can be prone to depression if they keep their emotion to themselves. A lot of people avoid crying because they think it might be a sign of weakness. However, it is important to cry because it releases one’s emotions. When expressing feelings, it is important to avoid catharsis – venting up one’s anger by doing something violent like boxing, smashing things, and the like. Catharsis does not release one’s emotion, especially anger. Rather, it makes a person practice violence as an expression of emotion, and thus can be very dangerous.

Hang around with friends and loved ones. Depressed individuals need support very much. Other people can distract one from stressors. People can also remind a depressed individual that there can be more to life, and it is worth living even if it is simply because of the company of wonderful people.

Lastly, it is important to believe in oneself. A lot of people get depressed because they put themselves down. It is important to satisfy oneself and gain a sense of self-worth. It is good to do something that would make one happy. Prioritizing one’s self can help one to believe that one’s own life is important and can be enjoyed. Being kind to oneself is one of the most important steps to get away from a depressive state.

Depression management is possible and entails taking charge of one’s self. When dealing with depression however, it is important not to rush. Sadness does not disappear overnight; it takes time to get back on one’s feet. Little by little, one can get out of depression and have a normal life once more.

For many people, putting off their work for later is more habit than desire. It can be so hard to get into a groove where starting your tasks in a timely fashion is a priority, especially if the consequences for being late are things that one can probably bear.

If you are one of these people, yet you desire to shake off your propensity for procrastination, then you have come to the right place. Here are a few tips to help you overcome this dilemma and become a more productive and reliable person.

1. Set schedules – It is very important that you have a list of activities to accomplish per day. This will help you realistically budget your time and resources. One of the cardinal sins people commit in regards to performing their tasks is to put off their work because they feel like there is so much time left. A journal, organizer, or calendar of events will help you plan and schedule your task so that you can start them promptly and finish them on time.

2. Save the Vacation for Later – Many people put their work off for later saying, “I’ll just have a little fun then buckle down to work later.” While it may be true that they may have more than enough time to accomplish their tasks, it would be better if they finished their work first and relax afterwards.

Wouldn’t relaxation be sweeter if it were after a taxing job? If you choose to lay back and relax before doing your tasks, you will be more prone to burnout and will have nothing exciting left to look forward to after accomplishing a task. It is always better to have slack period AFTER a job than before one, especially considering that people are wont to overusing their slack time. This is suicide if you are heading towards a deadline.

3. Never Underestimate Your Tasks – Sometimes procrastination sets in because people underestimate the resources, difficulty, and time spent for a particular task. They will usually say, “It’s just mowing the lawn, its easy; I could do it in a jiffy.” The problem is, no matter how trivial the task, it still takes time and resources to accomplish. If you underestimate a task, you will most likely set too little time to do it and schedule it too close to its deadline.

4. Don’t Allow Yourself to Get Comfortable Doing Nothing – It would definitely help if you kept a subconscious alarm whenever you are doing nothing. Get this alarm to remind you of things that may need to be done. This will help you foster the notion that jobs accomplished now means more time for relaxation later. However, even if this is the case, do not forget to put ample time in for rest and to remove all thoughts of troubles before hitting the sack.

The trick here, however, is not to overdo you rest. There is a difference between resting and idling. Always set the right amount of time for rest and stick to that schedule.

People say that it takes 21 days to form a new habit, or to break an old one.

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Make it an outstanding day ahead, and continue to live with passion.

Those children chose to live like heros in their own way, despite the extreme material poverty they live in.

Watching TV is usually something I do not find myself doing (I am still to tune the antenna after a couple of years here), but as I was waiting at the dental clinic the other day, I was browsing through my iPhone’s TV channels, and came upon this guy on one of those talk shows. His name is Bill and there he was telling his story about how he ended up being wrongly diagnosed as being HIV positive, and lived that way for over six years!

He went into great detail about the anguish, fear and pain he had been subjected to. For over six years he has lived in fear of dying from AIDS. Now the skeptic in me wants to know why he is on TV telling his story.

Is he doing it to help others, or is there another reason – such as the more publicity he gets, the larger the settlement offer he is likely to receive from the doctor’s malpractice insurance company? I’ll let you decide.

Now to be fair, let’s face facts. The fact is, the doctor’s did make a mistake and misdiagnosed him. The doctor’s mistakenly told him he had a medical condition, which at the time seemed like a death sentence. The doctors really messed up.

On the other hand, from my point of view, Bill has another serious life-threatening condition that needs immediate attention. And this condition is much worse than HIV.

 He has a serious case of “victimitis.”

He is living his life as a victim instead of someone who was given the greatest gift a human can ever receive – the opportunity to live a consciousness life.

By conscious I mean knowing that we must live each day as though it were our last day on earth. Now the fact that he may die 30, 50, or 80 years later than he thought, is just a bonus.

But the fact is, he was given the priceless opportunity to spend every day, living in the moment with conscious thought about the people he loves, what he can do to contribute to others while he is still on this planet, and the true meaning of his life. Everything he did on a daily basis could have been filtered through a much more discerning filter than most of us have – which is to stop focusing on the future and live and create our reality in the moment.

And there is no greater gift you can receive. But to receive it, you have to let go of the belief that you are a victim of your past. Obviously something Bill is not doing. Instead, he would rather tell his “story” and remain a victim.

Recently I was having a discussion with a friend of mine. During the conversation she told me about how she was the victim of terrible, horrific abuse when she was a child. In fact, this was not the first time she had mentioned this.

The advice I gave her was to never mention it to me ever again, or to anyone else for that matter unless she was ready to heal the situation and let it go.

But in the meantime, talking to anyone about her experiences just impresses it deeper into her subconscious mind. Since the subconscious can only focus in the present moment it thinks the abuse is happening again and again, each time she tells her “story”.

All this does is help her to hang on to her victim status. The problem is that living as a victim is an easy thing to do… I mean why would so many people, all over the world cling so desperately to situations which victimize them?

 Well, here’s a list that I came up with that I’d like to share with you today.

People willingly keep viewing themselves as victims:

1) They can tell themselves that any failure they face in the present is not their fault because of what happened in their past.

2) They can believe that people, circumstances and conditions outside of their lives are responsible for all bad things in their life.

3) They can get unending sympathy and attention from others when they tell their “story.”

4) They can use their ‘victim status’ to prevent them from getting emotionally close to others and facing rejection.

5) They can use their past experiences as justification for why they should no longer attempt to create what will make them happy in their life right now.

6) They can confirm their past programming that taught them that they are a “terrible person”, or would “never amount to anything,” or whatever other negative self belief they allowed to be instilled in themselves.

7) They can feel like a hero because they are the one of downtrodden people, fighting the forces of evil, against all the odds (as if…) 

They can feel spiritual, believing they are sacrificing their life on this planet so they will receive their true reward in the afterlife (how sad is that…)

9) They can just be basically unconscious, like most victims, and have no idea what kind of a destructive and bitter cycle they are on.

No matter which of these reasons – or more likely, combinations of reasons they have – the end result is still the same: They will continue to lead an empty, miserable life, existing day-to-day, with no real shot at happiness and fulfillment. And that is their true sickness.

To be healthy, happy and prosperous, you have to be willing to release your heroic journey against all odds, and just expect and accept you can create whatever you desire from this moment on.

Bill (the guy with the misdiagnosis) was given the greatest gift – the opportunity to live a consciousness life. He had an opportunity to break out from the unconscious herd and live a life really worth living, but instead he has decided to live his life as a victim.

Now if I seem hard on him, I plead “guilty as charged.” Somebody has to be. Because someone has to figuratively slap him – and you, and me – upside the head and make us understand that every moment is a new opportunity to recreate our lives.

If you have been holding on to your ‘victim status’ and believe you are stuck or cannot turn your life around, I have a solution for you.

If you are ready to stop living as victim and start living your life as a Creator, you are in for a treat of realization.

 All you have to do is to learn how to create your life by design instead of by default. If this is your time to step forward and claim your victory, then keep taking action and stop living as a victim, and be a Living Success instead!

Please take two minutes of your time, and confirm your Hero Status in the Comment box below.

To your continued Heroism!

GratitudeLog?

Today, I received a invitation to join a new site called GratitudeLog. I checked it out and was pleasantly surprised to see what I think is a great idea and a great platform for people to raise their feelings and share their appreciation for all things.

A good friend of mine and I had a similar idea 2 years ago nearly, but never materialized anything. I’m glad a site like this has come around. If it interests you, check them out and see what you think. It’s like twitter, but for giving gratitude.

http://www.gratitudelog.com

When it comes to personal development this is a pretty important issue, for without asking questions of ourselves we will never gain insight. Think of the amount of time you have attributed  blame to someone in your lifetime; contrast that against the amount of time you have blamed yourself for something. It is much easier to accept our misfortune as the consequence of others or events outside our control. For a moment, I ask you to think about how honest you really are with yourself.

For decades many psychologists have considered individuals who have heard their inner voices as bordering on the edge of sanity. But, if you look carefully at the many great spiritual leaders, scientists, artists, musicians and social leaders, they regularly listened to their inner voices. They gratefully awakened this special inner conversation  regularly. This may sound a bit fancy, but believe me when I say that not only is it real, it’s happening right now.

It would probably surprise you to know the amount of success that comes to people who can answer questions about themselves with honesty and accuracy, key to achieving this is the ability to phrase a question. A good question should contain precise key words that make an answer easier to obtain. A question is either a call for an answer or for further information on a subject. Internal questioning should be a mixture between these two forms of questions.
 
For instance, begin with some fundamental, simple questions that begin with who, what, why and how. Then move on to some more probing questions to advance things along a bit. These questions should check your understanding of what you are asking and how much . While there isn’t a rigid formula to asking internal questions, you should make sure you ask a variety of open and closed questions.
 
An open question requires an expansive answer that is not yes or no. An example of this is: What does it mean to be successful ? Your answer here requires an open and abstract approach. You should now  use a probing question to explore the themes you uncovered in your previous answer such as : Which of these meanings are the most important and why ?
 
From answering this question you will discover the value of the things you attribute to success. 
 
Now is the time to clarify your answers with a qualifying statement : What I really want from life is… ?
This restates your objective as well as providing some fresh insight. Your final question should be a close question : What am I going to do tomorrow.  Your closed question should provide an answer that gives direction rather than options.
 
The key to asking a proper question is timing. A well chosen reflective question can get right to the heart of an issue. A reflective question puts your gaze to the very core of your being and to the heart of an issue. A reflective question should be tightly focused and relevant to context.  
 
However, questioning is just one half of the equation. The way to give a good answer is to be a good listener. Listening is an essential part of communication, and it is different from hearing. Being a good and patient listener helps you not only solve many problems at work or home, but also to see the world through the eyes of others, thereby opening your understanding and enhancing your capacity for empathy. Besides which, you learn a lot from listening. As deceptively simple as listening to and acknowledging other people may seem, doing it well, particularly when disagreements arise, takes sincere effort and lots of practice. Everybody loves to be listened to. You have probably met someone who is a good listener and thought afterwards what an interesting person they were – even though they may have said very little. The truth is that they were giving you the chance to be interesting, so you appeared naturally warm to them.
 
You can turn this charm on yourself because it works in the same way. It feels amazing to ask yourself empowering questions and really get insight from your answers, just make sure its constructive not critical.

Enjoy a great summer month ahead

Blessings,

In the middle of a session the other day I had a powerful realization. I was asked to think of a relationship I had with something in the last week, that in my mind was the ideal relationship, and to think of what it was about that relationship that made it ideal.

A number of people from the blog group thought of their cars, tool sheds, families, workmates, old friends, even relationships with objects such as their mobile phone, speedboat, hand bag, or favorite pair of shoes. To each of these people, these things felt comfortable, and simple. The relationships they had with these people or objects was ‘rewarding’ and easy to maintain.

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When my turn came to identify my ideal relationship, I thought of our cat Shalom who has very simple needs, and it is the ultimate ego-boost for me when I am home and I am greeted in such an enthusiastic fashion just for walking down the stairs, or displaying his affection by popping on my lap as I seat at my desk. I don’t know of any others that greet me so enthusiastically day after day. No matter how cold the night was (cat free house at night) or no matter how busy my day has been, when I didn’t get much time to play with him.

I call this unconditional love. Even without having to leave the house, Shalom always comes to us to get and give love from us, unconditionnaly.

So what is unconditional love?

Unconditional love is the type of love that comes without conditions. It is the type of love that you have for your partner when the romantic, hollywood-style love is gone. Once the romantic love is gone you make the transition to “real” love. Real love is love you have for your partner despite the knowledge that they are not perfect. You know your partner has faults. You know your partner is not perfect. You know your partner makes mistakes sometimes, but that’s okay. You still love them. This is unconditional love.

The same thing applies to you however in looking at your partner’s faults. You acknowledge that you are the same. You have faults. You are not perfect. You know you make mistakes sometimes, but that’s okay. That’s called self-acceptance, and you expect unconditional love to overcome the faults and imperfections that people have.

So what do you get from this then? Should we all go out and get cats to teach us something about unconditional love? Maybe there is a lesson to be learnt here. We all clutter our lives with trials and tribulations, and there is the temptation to let our issues rule our lives.

But if you are serious about saving your marriage you need to put the clutter to one side and let your unconditional love come through. It is okay to have faults and make mistakes. And love will conquer them all.

Have a think about unconditional love and how you can apply this realization to your relationship.

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