I am not sure if we all realize the importance of a happy, growing, connected and fulfilling marriage/relationship in our lives. What impact it  has on our drive, and passion for life. My personal belief is that one of the main factors to succeed, will depend on the quality of our relationship/marriage. Don’t we all get more inspired when we are ‘in love’ and feeling totally connected to our other half?

 

Hence this present post that has brewed in my brain most of the week, and that I am attempting to chunk down in 10 steps, on this shinning, first Sunday of Spring.

 

Do you know what all happy and healthy marriages/relationships have in common? In every one of them you will find two people committed to making each other happy. You will find a man who cherishes his wife and puts her needs above his own, and you will find a wife who respects and trusts her man. We live in very selfish times. Pop-psychology messages are everywhere in the media encouraging us to love ourselves, do right by ourselves, and generally please ourselves first. If you really want a happy marriage, don’t buy into that type of self-centered thinking. Instead, try these 10 time-tested techniques and experience the happiness, peace, and tranquility of a healthy marriage.

1). Make time for each other. It’s so easy in our hyper-busy modern lifestyles to forget to set aside a little time to enjoy each other’s company. Start a weekly tradition of setting a date for the two of you to be together doing something you both enjoy. Keep it simple. Take a nice walk together. Sip coffee together in a cozy coffeehouse. Talk to each other, reminisce, and get to know each other again.

2). Take time off from each other. Give each other space and time to work on hobbies and personal interests. When you have an interesting project to work on, you will feel more fulfilled and you will be a more interesting person.

3). Make little romantic gestures. Be consitent at it. Remember to compliment your spouse. Leave a little love note for them to find once in awhile. Express your self ! Celebrate the day you first met. Send flowers for no particular reason. You should continuously make little deposits in your spouse’s emotional bank account. The return on your investment will be incredible. MAKE SURE YOU DO THE ABOVE WITH AN INSPIRED HEART, with a genuine intent.

4). Fight fair. Don’t argue in front of other people. Don’t insult each other or each other’s families. Never threaten divorce, and never go to bed angry. Let the little things go, and don’t make a big deal out of every disagreement. Before arguing, think; is this really going to matter in the long run?

5). Take interest in what interests your spouse. Watch their favorite shows with them. Read their favorite book, so you can talk about it with them. Encourage them to develop their talents.

6). Listen to your spouse. Husbands, remember that women need to express their feelings. Be a good sport and just listen. Don’t interrupt, or get distracted. Empathize with her. Let her know that you can relate to what she’s feeling. Ladies, please remember that the kind of talk you might like to have with your husband does not come naturally to most men. Just be patient. It’s not a good idea to “unload” on him right when he comes home from work.

7). Accept your spouse for who they are. Practice total acceptance. Don’t hold your spouse to your expectations; you will only succeed at building resentment.

8). Express your commitment. In little ways, you can, and should, renew your vows to each other over and over. Your spouse will feel comfortable and secure knowing that you are truly committed to the marriage. True closeness will only happen when all doubt and insecurity is replaced by confidence in the relationship. Let your spouse know that you really are in it “till death do us part” and show her your continued commitment to growth and closeness together.

9). Trust in each other. Don’t be suspicious. Don’t snoop through each other’s belongings. To help ensure the trust, be honest with your spouse in all things. Never keep secrets from each other, not even little ones.

10). Make it your aim to be your spouse’s best friend. Appreciate your spouse for who they are. Loosen up and have fun with each other. If you are practicing the steps above, you are on your way to being your spouse’s best friend the ultimate relationship in marriage.

I bet that if we all implemented and lived by these simple steps, the world (especially ‘our’ inner world) would be ’slightly’ different…Are you willing to take the challenge and follow one of these steps a day, and see what happens when you do?…What effect would a smal consistent change have in the course of a week, a month, a year from now?…

Small consitent positive changes create miracles ! I invite you to REALLY try it !

 I would be curious to hear your awesome, deep experiences. Until then, stay inspired, be passionate and be your true shinning self!

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