Everything that happens to us happens for a reason, it has its purpose. And sometimes, one thing leads to another. Instead of locking yourself up in your cage of fears and crying over past heartaches, embarrassment and failures, treat them as your teachers and they will become your tools in both self improvement and success.

I remember watching Patch Adams – one of my favorite movie, actually. It is one great film that will help you improve yourself. Hunter “Patch” Adams is a medical student who failed to make it through the board exams. After months of suffering in melancholy, depression and suicidal attempts – he decided to seek for medical attention and voluntarily admitted himself in a psychiatric ward.  His months of stay in the hospital led him to meeting different kinds of people. Sick people in that matter. He met a catatonic, a mentally retarded, a schizophrenic and so on. Patch found ways of treating his own ailment and finally realized he has to get back on track. He woke up one morning realizing that after all the failure and pains he has gone through, he still wanted to become a doctor. He carries with himself a positive attitude that brought him self improvement and success. He didn’t only improved himself, but also the life of the people around him and the quality of life.

Did he succeed? Needless to say, he became the best damn doctor his country has ever known.

So, when does self improvement become synonymous with success? Where do we start? Take these tips, friends…

*Stop thinking and feeling as if you’re a failure, because you’re not. How can others accept you if YOU can’t accept YOU?

*When you see hunks and models on TV, think more on self improvement, not self pitying. Self acceptance is not just about having nice slender legs, or great abs. Concentrate on inner beauty (and this beauty will not only last over the years, but increase as you get older!).

*When people feel so down and low about themselves, help them move up. Don’t go down with them. They’ll pull you down further and both of you will end up feeling inferior.

*The world is a large room for lessons, not mistakes. Don’t feel stupid and doomed forever just because you failed on a science quiz. There’s always a next time. Make rooms for self improvement.

*Take things one at a time. You don’t expect black sheep’s to be goody-two-shoes in just a snap of a finger. Self improvement is a one day at a time process.

*Self improvement results to inner stability, personality development and dig this …. SUCCESS. It comes from self confidence, self appreciation and self esteem.

* Set meaningful and achievable goals. Self improvement doesn’t turn you to be the exact replica of Cameron Diaz or Brad Pitt. It hopes and aims to result to an improved and better YOU.

*Little things mean BIG to other people. Sometimes, we don’t realize that the little things that we do like a pat on the back, saying “hi” or “hello”, greeting someone “good day” or telling Mr. Smith something like “hey, I love your tie!” are simple things that mean so much to other people. When we’re being appreciative about beautiful things around us and other people, we also become beautiful to them.

*When you’re willing to accept change and go through the process of self improvement, it doesn’t mean that everyone else is. The world is a place where people of different values and attitude hang out. Sometimes, even if you think you and your best friend always like to do the same thing together at the same time, she would most likely decline an invitation for self improvement.

We should always remember that there’s no such thing as ‘over night success’. Its always a wonderful feeling to hold on to the things that you already have now, realizing that those are just one of the things you once wished for. A very nice quote says that “When the student is ready, the teacher will appear.”  We are all here to learn our lessons. Our parents, school teachers, friends, colleagues, officemates, neighbors… they are our teachers.

When we open our doors for self improvement, we increase our chances to head to the road of success.

I encourage you to give it a try and to keep the Faith!

Nicolas

You have just been struck with the news that your spouse has cheated on you and you are battered emotionally; how do you respond to this discovery? Do you go all out and react the way you feel or should you calm down and seek for a more peaceful way of approaching the issue in order to save your marriage?

Perhaps you are optimistic that your marriage can survive regardless of the unfaithfulness of your partner; but you still feel terribly hurt at the thought of the affair. Here are some tips on how you can get over your emotional wounds, forgive your spouse, bring love back to the relationship and rescue your marriage.

· Do not make any rash decisions following the discovery of your partner’s unfaithfulness. Try and bring yourself to a place of sober reflection and see if you might have created a vacuum that prompted your partner to look elsewhere for happiness. This way, you can dismiss any blame and take the necessary steps towards reconciliation.

· Right now, you may be saying to yourself, “If only they were in my shoes!” It’s normal to feel pain, fear, shock, rage, confusion, and uncertainty. But you can overcome it all if you still love your partner and want the marriage to move forward. You need to realize things like this happen and it’s human to err. Just think of it this way, “What if I was the one who cheated. Wouldn’t I want to be forgiven?” Being thorough in your thinking and considerate about the whole issue will allow you to forgive and let go of the past.

· It’s important to make sure you stay in good health during the ordeal. Health conditions such as insomnia, loss of appetite, loss of concentration, nausea, and emotional trauma should be quickly and properly attended to.

· Also, seek help and counsel from those who have something meaningful to offer. It can be helpful to share your pain with people and get some relief from their meaningful counsel and advice.

· You should also talk things over with your spouse, but not when you’re angry. Otherwise, you may not achieve any result. Tactfully express your pain and also listen to the explanation of your partner. This may help you understand your partner’s decision and help you realize if you’re actions are in any way responsible for them. Talking things over could eventually lead to a meaningful reconciliation.

· Don’t isolate yourself to avoid going into deep depression. Emotional trauma can be eased if you seek help and talk with people you can confide in.

· If you and your partner have children, you need to be careful not to weigh them down with the incident. Handle every issue about the unfaithful act of your partner with care and avoid getting your kids involved, especially when they are too young to comprehend such matters.

If you diligently and patiently follow the reconciliatory tips outlined above, things can get better regarding your marriage. Just put the past behind you and look forward to a brighter future in your marriage.

Wishing you the best you deserve, continue to be strong, live with passion and be in love again!

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Talking about re-loving? That usually means there was once love before things went wrong and it was lost! Well, that’s not the end of the road.

The love can be brought back. It only requires dedication and a firm decision to love and BE in love again.

Casting your mind back to the marriage vows will help weigh your actions and attitude towards your relationship so far. You will be able to see if you’re living up to the oaths sworn that day or if you’ve thrown them into the garbage.

Just ponder over your actions towards your partner of late. Have you really been cherishing, honoring, and loving only your spouse? If you haven’t been living up to these expectations, you have contributed in killing the love in your relationship!

This isn’t meant to cast blame on you. However, it’s just to let you know how and where you have strayed. This way, you can retrace your steps and rekindle the love in your relationship.

Loving again Marriage is always kicked off from the foundation of courtship, the pre-marriage stage where love burns almost endlessly. However, as the courtship progresses to marriage and with the passage of time, the love tends to die down. Things such as insults, betrayal of trust, cheating, and similar sorts, tend to take a grip on the relationship and eventually extinguish the fire of love.

Your spouse no longer arouses those loving feelings anymore. And somehow, it gets to a point where a person wants to find a new partner. It can be quite sad. But before it gets to that point, you can act quickly and bring back that love to re-energize your relationship. There are multiple actions you can take to inject the love of your courting days into your marriage again.

One of the secrets is bringing back positive attitudes, endearment, manner of approach, conversation, and unconditional love into your home again. If your partner was at one point in time the most preferred, cherished, and loving person in your life and you were the same things to him/her; don’t you think there is still a spark of that same love now? It can happen, you can certainly be in love again!

All you need is to think of your partner that same way again. Decide in your heart to make the relationship work and revisit those days when things worked out. They can work again. You’ve got to do away with the bad and bury any current fears that have clouded your mind. If you do this consistently over a substantial period of time, you will discover you are in love again and your partner is also being ignited with the same passion and love for you.

Why wait? Be the one to initiate the action and watch how swiftly your partner will follow suit. Re-loving is indeed the ingredient that can boost your relationship and get it on track again.

Why not download your free ‘101 Ways to Enhance Your Relationship” report, to help you in your quest?

Wishing you the best you deserve.

Continue to Live with Passion and Be in Love Again!

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Four WHOLE weeks.

You’re sitting at your desk, minding your own business when some annoying fellow comes up to you and asks you…

“So, how are you doing for your goals for the year?”

What’s your immediate reaction?

Guilt because you haven’t done ANYTHING yet?

Frustration because you WANTED to set and be on track with your goals BUT YOU DIDN’T KNOW HOW?

Disappointment with yourself because you’ve SET your goals, but haven’t even made it past STEP ONE of your plan?

Resignation because you’ve just plain GIVEN UP on ever accomplishing any goals you set yourself?

Well you’re not alone. The fact is, not even 97% of people who have made it to Harvard Business School (these guys are supposed to be SMART) have any clear and written goals for themselves.

So why is it so HARD to set and ACHIEVE your goals?

Simple.

Because you’ve never learned HOW TO! In your entire education, from your very first day in class to your graduation day… you’ve learned SO MANY seemingly useless things. But there’s one thing you’ve never, ever learned.

And that’s the ONE THING that will make you WILDLY SUCCESSFUL and RICH.

That’s why my fellow Australian friend and Passion Coach Thad Bong created the Goal Setting MASTERY course – to bring you up to speed with the BREAKTHROUGH strategies that he’s condensed into 12 simple but POWERFUL lessons to HELP YOU ACHIEVE EVERY GOAL YOU DESIRE.

Get Your FREE Copy Of The Course Outline RIGHT NOW!

Indeed, the world will end in 2012. In full earth-shattering, ground breaking glory.

Skyscrapers, grey-haired grand-parents and pet Chihuahuas will be swallowed up by the earth. And giant tsunamis will sweep everything and everyone but politicians away…

Such is the bleak picture painted by Roland Emmerich in his latest blockbuster 2012 movie, now showing at a cinema near you.

The movie enjoyed a tremendous response from moviegoers around the world. Tickets were sold out in most cineplexes in the first week of its release. 2012 also beat all rivals at the American box office, where the loosely Maya-inspired tale of the world’s end totted up nearly half of all box-office receipts in its opening weekend.

It has become almost formulaic for filmmakers: if they want a box-office success, they know the movie should focus on either blood thirsty creatures of the undead variety, body-snatching aliens, a genetically enhanced Britney Spears, the end of the world, or all of the above.

There was one movie earlier this year alluding to the annihilation of mankind and life in a post-apocalyptic world – Terminator: Salvation. There has been many more in the past – 12 Monkeys (1995), Planet of the Apes (1968 and 2001), and Armageddon (1998), to name just three…

Since the dawn of time, people have been obsessed with the end of time. There has been many predictions and prophecies from well-known figures, religions and cultures.

Some years – 1666, 1999, 2000, 2012, and 2096 – have come up more often than most. But they all have one thing in common: none so far have come true.

1666, so chosen due to its vague connection with the number of the Beast of Revelation, came and went.

So did 1999. It certainly wasn’t the end either for Apple that year, who launched the first iBook, or for Lance Armstrong winning his first Tour de France!

What has also been noted is that doom-saying is de rigeur at the end of every millennium.

Late in the year 999, many had thought the world would end at the stroke of midnight bringing in the year 1000 AD. It was said that so many Europeans were convinced that the world was going to end that they burnt their crops, slaughtered animals, and prepared to die. The world didn’t end that year.

The same Millennial  madness surfaced when the year 2000 approached. It was believed that a catastrophe of apocalyptic proportions would occur due to the failure of computers to recognize the year 2000.

Doomsayers predicted that civilization as we know it would come to an end, as everything we depended on technologically would grind to a halt. It did not.

Y2K was, in the end, only a minor problem because everyone saw it coming and had everything fixed ahead of time. Computers did not crash, planes flew, businesses continued to operate, and millennium babies were born.

But our morbid fascination with the End of Days persists. So much so, it has even become part of popular culture. People now flock to cinemas and pay good money (sometimes an astronomical $25/18 EUR for some seats) to witness the many horrific ways, in which our world, and its occupants, could die.

Just what is it about the apocalypse that so fires the imagination? Why do people persists in their predictions and preoccupation with the end of the world?

The answer to that is probably the same as why people are fascinated by grotesque imagery of decapitated limbs, bursting guts and supermodel Megan Fox.

It is catharsis.

It reminds us everything is impermanent, and that we should be grateful for what we have. It tells us how badly things can turn out, and that we ought to be thankful to just be alive; not careening headlong to the center of the Earth, running away from hairy beasts, or impregnated with alien spawn.

The year 2012 will likely just come and go, as years do. The London Summer Olympics will be held that year. It will also be Queen Elizabeth II’s 60^th accession to the throne anniversary. There will be a total solar eclipse on November 13^th.

What amazing things do you see your self doing  that year?

Until then, continue to Live with Passion and Attract Your Dreams!

  Oh my gosh, this is incredible…

I just saw this interview of a guy from Australia that
could change the way you manifest anything you want
into your life. You really do have to see this:

http://mindmovies.com/vid1/?15306

You see, he figured out this powerful way to tap into the
Law of Attraction that practically guarantees
you’ll get whatever you want.

And the surprising thing about it is it is SUPER easy to do,
you can start doing it right now…and here’s the really cool
part…

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He’s GIVING it away! ForFREE
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He obviously understands abundance, because he’s
practicing it in a very big way here:

http://mindmovies.com/vid1/?15306

So what is it about Aussies anyway? They seem to totally
have this figured out, especially when you consider that
the land down under is where we got…

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The Secret
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I’m sure you’ll agree that was life changing all by itself.

And now, this guy has added another dimension to the
Law of Attraction that ramps up how fast you can manifest
anything you want into your life.

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This makes the Universe say YES even faster!
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He even got marketing expert Frank Kern excited about it.
If you haven’t heard of Frank, well, he’s a marketing genius
who makes millions of dollars online. Everything he does
seems to turn to gold.

But he’s not exactly what you’d expect when it comes to using
The Law of Attraction to manifest your goals and desires.

You’ll hear his personal experience with this when you
watch the video:

http://mindmovies.com/vid1/?15306

So, if even HE is doing this, what does that tell you about
how effective this is? Bad news for the naysayers who think
it isn’t for “regular” people, or the Law of Attraction is some
kind of mumbo jumbo.

So if you’re really serious about increasing your power to
manifest anything you want into your life super fast,
you need to check this out right now:

http://mindmovies.com/vid1/?15306

I’ve already started using this (which even helped me relocate somewhere totally awesome in the tropics to escape the Northern Hemisphere’s winter), and I strongly recommend you too take action and use this stuff!

I am so grateful!

All my best,   

We can set all the goals that we want.

We can study all of the gurus and masters we want.

Yet, most of us will still seem to fail…and be unfulfilled at heart…

Why is that?

Don’t pretend you don’t know, you know exactly what holds you back from achieving the level of success that you deserve. We all do. Seriously, stop for a moment and think about it. You know, in your heart, yet you turn to outside sources to overcome these issues that are within yourself.

I know it’s way easier to look elsewhere, but to overcome we must look within.

The ultimate hurdle during our path to success is within. If we can acknowledge and accept this hurdle, then we can and WILL overcome it…otherwise we will continue to struggle us.

Once we verbalize this obstruction, our minds will then subconciously learn to overcome it. But first we need to verbalize what holds us back from success, and clearly define what our life purpose really is.

What is it that holds you back from the success that you deserve? What is it that drives you the most and fulfills you?

Watching TV is usually something I do not find myself doing, but the other day I turned it on and there was a guy on one of those talk shows. His name is Bill and he was telling his story about how he was wrongly diagnosed as being HIV positive, and lived that way for over six years!

He went into great detail about the anguish, fear and pain he had been subjected to. For over six years he has lived in fear of dying from AIDS. Now the skeptic in me wants to know why he is on TV telling his story.

Is he doing it to help others, or is there another reason – such as the more publicity he gets, the larger the settlement offer he is likely to receive from the doctor’s malpractice insurance company? I’ll let you decide.

Now to be fair, let’s face facts. The fact is, the doctor’s did make a mistake and misdiagnosed him. The doctor’s mistakenly told him he had a medical condition, which at the time seemed like a death sentence. The doctors really messed up.

On the other hand, from my point of view, Bill has another serious life-threatening condition that needs immediate attention. And this condition is much worse than HIV.

 He has a serious case of “victimitis.”

He is living his life as a victim instead of someone who was given the greatest gift a human can ever receive – the opportunity to live a consciousness life.

By conscious I mean knowing that we must live each day as though it were our last day on earth. Now the fact that he may die 30, 50, or 80 years later than he thought, is just a bonus.

But the fact is, he was given the priceless opportunity to spend every day, living in the moment with conscious thought about the people he loves, what he can do to contribute to others while he is still on this planet, and the true meaning of his life. Everything he did on a daily basis could have been filtered through a much more discerning filter than most of us have – which is to stop focusing on the future and live and create our reality in the moment.

And there is no greater gift you can receive. But to receive it, you have to let go of the belief that you are a victim of your past. Obviously something Bill is not doing. Instead, he would rather tell his “story” and remain a victim.

Recently I was having a discussion with a friend of mine. During the conversation she told me about how she was the victim of terrible, horrific abuse when she was a child. In fact, this was not the first time she had mentioned this.

The advice I gave her was to never mention it to me ever again, or to anyone else for that matter unless she was ready to heal the situation and let it go.

But in the meantime, talking to anyone about her experiences just impresses it deeper into her subconscious mind. Since the subconscious can only focus in the present moment it thinks the abuse is happening again and again, each time she tells her “story”.

All this does is help her to hang on to her victim status. The problem is that living as a victim is an easy thing to do… I mean why would so many people, all over the world cling so desperately to situations which victimize them?

 Well, here’s a list that I came up with that I’d like to share with you today.

People willingly keep viewing themselves as victims:

1) They can tell themselves that any failure they face in the present is not their fault because of what happened in their past.

2) They can believe that people, circumstances and conditions outside of their lives are responsible for all bad things in their life.

3) They can get unending sympathy and attention from others when they tell their “story.”

4) They can use their ‘victim status’ to prevent them from getting emotionally close to others and facing rejection.

5) They can use their past experiences as justification for why they should no longer attempt to create what will make them happy in their life right now.

6) They can confirm their past programming that taught them that they are a “terrible person”, or would “never amount to anything,” or whatever other negative self belief they allowed to be instilled in themselves.

7) They can feel like a hero because they are the one of downtrodden people, fighting the forces of evil, against all the odds (as if…) 

They can feel spiritual, believing they are sacrificing their life on this planet so they will receive their true reward in the afterlife (how sad is that…)

9) They can just be basically unconscious, like most victims, and have no idea what kind of a destructive and bitter cycle they are on.

No matter which of these reasons – or more likely, combinations of reasons they have – the end result is still the same: They will continue to lead an empty, miserable life, existing day-to-day, with no real shot at happiness and fulfillment. And that is their true sickness.

To be healthy, happy and prosperous, you have to be willing to release your heroic journey against all odds, and just expect and accept you can create whatever you desire from this moment on.

Bill (the guy with the misdiagnosis) was given the greatest gift – the opportunity to live a consciousness life. He had an opportunity to break out from the unconscious herd and live a life really worth living, but instead he has decided to live his life as a victim.

Now if I seem hard on him, I plead “guilty as charged.” Somebody has to be. Because someone has to figuratively slap him – and you, and me – upside the head and make us understand that every moment is a new opportunity to recreate our lives.

If you have been holding on to your ‘victim status’ and believe you are stuck or cannot turn your life around, I have a solution for you.

If you are ready to stop living as victim and start living your life as a Creator, you are in for a treat of realization.

 All you have to do is to learn how to create your life by design instead of by default. If this is your time to step forward and claim your victory, then keep taking action and stop living as a victim, and be a Living Success instead!

“The greatest discovery of my generation is that human being can alter their lives by altering the attitudes of their mind.” – William James

“You have powers you never dreamed of. You can do things you never thought you could do. There are no limitations in what you can do except the limitations of your own mind.” – Darwin P. Kingsley

Recently, my son came to me and asked, “Papa, how come Michael doesn’t seem to study as hard as me though he does very well in his exams and has top grades; I don’t understand, can you explain this?” 

Have you ever asked yourself this question before? Or something along those lines?…I personally used to, in the past…I even admit that it use to get me angry at times too!

Have you ever wondered why someone supposedly not as smart as you with less academic knowledge, experience, not as attractive, not as good in networking or not as kind as you, seem to have it all.

While YOU, who is smarter, filled with charisma, an attractive resume, has a good network of friends, kind and helpful is still struggling to get where you want to be. Life seems to be unfair to you.

At this point of time, some may let certain disempowering thought lead their mind, such as:

“Those great achievers are also a great ass kisser” Or “I must let go my honesty in order to succeed”

Unfortunately, none of the above answers are true. Fortunately, the answer lies in something we all have and the good news is, you don’t have to spend a dime to ‘own’ it…

It’s called (are you ready?)

“YOUR MINDSET”

Sorry to disappoint you with the “not so fancy” answer. The purpose of this article is to positively impact your life and not to entertain you.

Mindset is a belief system that creates your destiny. It is one of the most powerful tools we are born with and most people oversee the huge amazing power in it. Some don’t even know how to use it properly.

To call a friend on the other side of the world, you need a tool, which is called a telephone. However, having the tool alone is not enough. You need to know what number to dial.

You need to know the number of digits to dial and the sequence of the digits. Otherwise, it is very unlikely that you’ll call the right person…

The same goes to your life. In order to get what you want, be it financial wealth, health, happiness, love, material possession, or anything you want in your life, you need a tool, known as your mind.

The good news is that there should never a challengein getting to s that tool and using it, because it ‘came with you’  in a ‘big package’, when you were born. The issue is, how do we use that tool that the Universe gave us with Life, in a way that will serve us a opposed to enslaving us?

You can use your mind to think the right thing (right mindset) and get what you want, or you can use it to think the wrong thing (wrong mindset) and wonder why you never fulfill your desires.

 To attract what you want, you MUST first and foremost develop a mindset which will attract your desires into your life. The door of your mind must be open.

So, what is the right mindset, I hear you say, right?

It depends on what you want to attract. The best way to develop the right mindset is to study the person who isalready successful or already have what you want. To mirror what your role model is precisely doing with their thoughts particularely…

For example, if you want to be successful in business, study the mindset of those who are already successful in business and model their mindset such as, how they perceive failure, how they think of competition and how they look at financial challenge.

Trust me. You’ll learn a lot just by studying their mindset and mirroring what it is they do to achieve what they did.

The next step is to change your beliefs and thoughts. What a great waste of time and effort if you have studied those successful people but do not apply the principle of their success in your life.

If your old belief and thought tells you that not having a large capital to start up a business is a big problem, and after you studied the successful businessman, you found out that money is never a problem to them, then you must change your belief and find out how they solve their financial matter.

You’ll never believe how easy it is for them and the good news is, you can do it too.

Yes. This is the time to plug in the Law of Attraction to your desires. Belief whole heartedly that you can achieve your goal. There’s no room for doubt. Faith is the king!

Do I have to take action?

Of course! You ought to do your bit, pul your own weight and chip in, and not entirely rely on the power of the Universe, or God, whatever you believe in.

The power of your belief boosts the power of your actions. The action that you take must be parallel to your desire. Do not expect to build a business empire if your only action is to watch football every night. (even you believe whole heartedly that you can be successful).

Belief is like the fuel in a car, and taking the right action is like pressing the right pedals, engaging the right gears in the right order. In the absence of one, your dreams perish and cannot come to live!

Take MASSIVE action today!

I’d love to know what you think of this piece of knowledge and what shifts occured for you once you’ve applied some of the distinctions you probably made by reading this.

Please share your thoughts with me in the comment box below.

In order to learn more about the Law of Attraction and how to leverage on it to create your magical life, I recommend you download your free 7 Laws of Attraction Report at www.discovering-the-law-of-attraction.com. I wish you the very best you deserve.

Attract Your Dreams and Live them with Passion.